“That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche

Infidelity. It can be one of the most painful discoveries a person can make in their relationship. Often, looking back, many people can see subtle signs that their partner was cheating that they didn’t notice at the time. As they say, hindsight is 20/20 but there are some subtle signs you can watch for right now that will clue you in to whether your partner is being unfaithful.

1. Change in libido – Both a decrease and an increase in the frequency of intimate activity can be a sign. A decrease can often happen because they’re investing their intimate energy into their cheating. However, an increase is also a sign because some cheaters increase the frequency of intimate activity to cover up their infidelity or relieve feelings of guilt.

2. Their friends get weird around you – In many cases of infidelity, the cheater’s friends often know what is going on long before the partner does. This can lead them to feel uneasy and anxious around you. If you notice their friends suddenly seem uneasy around you without a clear reason, this could be a subtle sign of infidelity.

3. Sudden change in care of appearance – If your partner suddenly begins investing more time and energy into their appearance without a clear reason such as a new job or weight loss goals, it could be another subtle sign of infidelity.

4. Change in phone communication/habits – If your partner used to be open with their phone and suddenly starts being secretive, hiding their phone or changing passwords, this could be a sign of cheating. Another sign could be a change in their phone use habits. For example, if they typically put their phone away during your evenings together but are suddenly on their phone all night without a valid reason, that change is another signal to pay attention to.

5. They give you more gifts – Surprise gifts are wonderful… unless the goal is to make up for being less available or to cover up their guilt. Many cheaters use gifts to distract their partner from the other signs of cheating.

6. What they say and what they do don’t add up – If your partner seems to have changing stories and excuses for why they weren’t where they promised to be, this can be another sign. For instance, if your partner had to miss that dinner with your parents because their boss needed a special project completed that day but later have no recollection of this special project, that doesn’t add up.

7. Overly focused on your schedule – One sign many people miss is a partner that becomes overly focused on your schedule, where you will be and when. The reason for this focus isn’t protectiveness or jealousy, it’s to help them plan their cheating behaviors when you will be busy with other things and less likely to be suspicious.

These 7 signs are subtle cues that your partner might be cheating. An important thing to always remember, whether subtle or more obvious, is when things don’t add up, it’s usually because the truth isn’t part of the equation. If you suspect your partner is cheating, Bulldog PI can help you get the truth you deserve.